Tamannaah Bhatia says about relationships in the podcast Raj Shamani’s ‘Figuring Out Podcast’ that whenever you are in a relationship, never try to control your partner. Because doing so can prove to be dangerous for both. Tamannaah further says that one should not try so hard to change their partner and make them what you think their ideal partner should be, what you actually want them to be. This can be a way of controlling. And this is again a red flag for a relationship.
When one partner tries to control or change the other, it can undermine trust and mutual respect, which can damage the relationship. In a relationship, it is important to understand why some people want to control their partner and how they display these behaviors. For a healthy relationship, you have to balance everything.
What do psychiatrists say about a controlling partner?
Sonal Khangarot, a licensed counsellor and psychotherapist at ‘The Answer Room’, told indianexpress.com, "Controlling behavior in relationships often stems from deeper psychological issues or unmet needs, originating either in childhood or from adult experiences.
There are common psychological reasons behind controlling behaviour in relationships
If your partner has low self-esteem and insecurity. People who do not feel secure or who have a very negative type of thinking may try to control others to compensate for their lack of inner stability.
People with attachment problems, particularly those with an anxious or disorganized attachment style, may feel that controlling their partner is necessary to maintain the stability of the relationship. This behavior often stems from an inability to express feelings or needs in a healthy way.
Some people want to make their partner the way they think they should be. But controlling in this way can prove to be dangerous for your relationship. In a relationship, it is very important to respect each other’s boundaries. If you do not do this, it can prove to be very dangerous for the relationship.
